Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Ten For Today

1. All of Olivia's grandparents called last night after reading yesterdays blog post. They just wanted to verify that the pictures were not a hoax (no, they are not. promise.) and to comment on how "those pants do not do her justice." My mom asked had she really gotten that chunky in just two weeks? No, she's still her same long and lean self. Those are not really pants but leggings which I normally put under a dress or skirt. She had on a skirt over them earlier, but I took it off for nap and since we were just hanging around the house the rest of the day, I didn't bother putting the skirt back on. Oh, and my dad called and got onto me for calling her a big ol' diaper butt. My parents crack me up.

2. I really want to read this book now.

I caught a little bit of the story on Oprah yesterday and it completely fascinated me. It's the true story of two men with the same name, who grew up in the same neighborhood, but whose lives took two completely different paths. David and I have regular conversations about nature vs. nurture and about how much the decisions we make have a impact on our lives. This story is the perfect example of that. It just came out, so as soon as I can find a cheap copy, I wanna get my hands on it.

3. Less than two months till vacation!!!!! No, I'm not counting down the days at all!

4. My sister and brother-in-law are coming down this weekend and I cannot wait to spend some time with them. It feels like it's been forever since we've gotten together and just hung out together. The last few visits have been holidays, so we really didn't get to just hang out. Of course, it happens that there is a lot going on this weekend, so we're dragging them all over town all weekend. I'll make sure we get some down time in too!

5. As I write this, Olivia is laying in her crib kicking the side of the wall (or banging her head?). She should be napping since she's in a mood, but it doesn't seem like that is going to happen. We originally had a couple of toys that attached to the side of her crib, but over the last few months, she's learned to not play with them but to use them to make as much noise as possible until you come and get her out. I guess since I've removed them all (because I'll be honest, it was just plain annoying), we've now resorted to kicking the wall. Thanks kid! Please don't be alarmed if you come to visit and her crib is in the middle of the room.

6. I really want to attempt to make Pioneer Woman's Cinnamon Rolls. I need to get over my fear of baking anything that doesn't come out of a box and go for it. I would like to have accomplished this before we go to the beach, because my family has never met a cinnamon roll they didn't like. Except for last Christmas when someone accidentally poured the orange icing on the cinnamon rolls and it was a hot mess. I think that is the first time there were Cinnamon Rolls left on the pan.

7. A few people have asked how I've been doing with the weight loss....I only told a few people, but I started weight watchers online a about three weeks ago. I did awesome the first week and lost five pounds. I'm now for the first time in over a year under the 150 mark and I'm only eight pounds over my pre-pregnancy weight. Honestly, I kinda got lazy after the first two weeks and have sucked it up since. The good news is I haven't gained any weight, but also I haven't lost any either. So I'm maintaining at the moment, but still working on it. Slow and steady.

8. One of my old college roommates & sorority sisters Julie is the new momma of a 4 month old baby boy who is a doll. She needs some mom advice, so head over to her blog A Day In the Life and help her out please (the post is titled Helpless, for some reason it won't let me click on the actual post)! You guys are always giving me some much appreciated and needed mommy advice so I'm hoping you'll send some her way too!

9. I want another baby soon...oops, did I say that out loud? Please, honey?

10. We went to pick strawberries yesterday. You can get a recap on the day here, since I totally walked out and forgot my camera. Plus, I know a lot of people who read my blog read Nic's, so I always try to spare y'all from double post. We were so fortunate to pick the flipping coldest day of the entire spring, but we still had a great time. We went with two other moms from Nicole's church and I really enjoyed meeting them. Nicole talks about them all the time (only good things) and it was nice to finally put a face to a name. I'm hoping they'll invite me to another outing soon. They had two ADORABLE little girls and I'm so excited that our circle seams to be growing in the girl department. For so long Josie was the only girl until Matalie came along. It makes me happy to see that Olivia is going to have so many little girl friends to play with. I'm trying to keep her from boys since we've recently discovered that she has a thing for men. Especially older men! She's in love with Luke (my friend Amy's five-year-old)! When Luke is around, she's all smiles and laughs. She'll just sit and stare at him. I told her daddy he better watch out! Thankfully Amy has told Luke he cannot date till he's 30 and we've already given Olivia the dating age of 25, so maybe their is hope for her crush after all!

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

The Bad part of blogging...

Is that you get so engrossed into reading blogs, that you look up from your computer and realize you missed a moment like this......

Yeah, I was so engrossed in my Google Reader, I completely missed her pull up on her own two feet completely by herself for the first time.

Thankfully the camera was close enough to grab.

I'm thinking this is another thing we can mark off of our accomplished list.


I love that big ol' diaper butt!

Isn't that one of the reasons for me staying home? So I don't miss these moments?

Way to go Mom!!!


Sunday, April 25, 2010

Getting to Know you

If you wanna play along, click the picture above.

The questions..

1. If you could star in any movie genre..what would it be..romance..horror..comedy..suspense or action?

Probably comedy, because I find myself absolutely hilarious and that is usually the only type of movies I watch.

2. Do you recycle?

Yes, because we have to. We have city trash pick up and they will not pick up your trash unless you have items in your recycling bin to be picked up also. I think it's a great rule because I hate to admit it, but I've always been to lazy to recycle.

3. Have you ever been to a strip club?

Never.


4. Do you have a nickname?

Ber-ams (don't ask), Ams, Nikki (my middle name is Nicole)

5. What's a name you can't stand to be called?

I cannot stand for people to call me mama unless its my children. I hate when husbands call their wives "mama." Don't know why, but it drives me insane.

6. What are your Summer staples?

Flip-flops, flip-flops, and flip-flops.

7. What was the last thing you bought for yourself?

A "mom" bathing suit from Target. I was dreading having to buy a "mom suit" this year, but I have found the ones I bought rather comfy.

8. Are you happy with your boob size?

No, I could go a little bigger. But just a little.

Saturday, April 24, 2010

An Ollie Kate Update

We're doing 100% better in the Mabrey household. It seems that after that Monday night breakdown that we both had, we're feeling back to our old self's.

That night she slept for over twelve hours and woke up a different child. I was afraid I was going to jinx things, so I've kept my mouth shut, but she's been what I consider "sleeping through the night" ever since. She now goes down about 7:30 or 8ish and sleeps till 5:30am. The past few mornings, I've gone in there, feed her, and put her back down and she's slept till about 8:30. I've been good and haven't been going back to bed once she goes back down, so it's given me a few hours to get stuff done before she's up again. It's made for both a happy baby and a happy mommy. I'm hoping this is a schedule we can keep up for a little bit.

Both of her top teeth have finally broke through, but they are not totally visible yet. I told David this morning that it now irritates me when people in public say she only has two teeth (like someone did at breakfast this morning). I know it sounds stupid and I guess it's a proud momma thing, but I always want to correct them and say "um...no, she has four." He just laughs at me. I've got issues, I know.

So, y'all will be happy to know that we are both still living and neither one of us has killed the other yet.

Oh, and guess what we're doing now....

Yes, my child is pulling up already!!! She's just shy of seven months and she is pulling herself up. I'm happy about this, but it honestly brought a tear to my eye. David caught her doing it first and called me to come watch her. It made me a little sad. In ways it seems she's been here forever, but she seems to be growing so fast. This is now her favorite game and we try to pull up for hours on end. I will be excited when she can officially accomplish it by herself, momma is tired of playing this game already.

We've had a quiet weekend so far and I must say, we've been enjoying it. We've spent most of our time doing stuff around the house. I've finally gotten my butt in gear and have started decorating rooms. I came to the conclusion that I went so long without doing anything because I was looking at the house as a whole. I'm now just going room by room. I decided to start in the sunroom/playroom because that is where we spend a good bit of our time. I'm about 75% done with it and my goal is to have it completely done by the end of May. After that, I'm moving on to the living room. I'll post pictures when I farther along with it.

We're off to have dinner with some friends. Wish us luck that Olivia makes it through it!

Thursday, April 22, 2010

The Newest Kicthen additon for moms

Yesterday afternoon, OK was refusing to take a nap and mommy had to get some stuff done (i.e. cook the hubby dinner so she could go out that night). I mean she did take a whole 15 minute nap on the way home from hobby lobby earlier in the morning, so why should she need another one?

Anyways....I got the idea to drag her pack n' play into the kitchen so she could sit on something half way comfy and play while I worked. I threw in a few dishes & utensils that were safe enough for her to play with and she sat there for over an hour and half playing. I barely heard a peep from her.

Please note how my pack n' play coordinates nicely with my kitchen.

In case your wondering why there is a tp roll on the counter....I never buy tissues. If we need to blow our noses we just always use tp. Since my allergies are now in full swing, I've been carrying a roll of tp around with me. Yes, I have even been carrying one in my purse and I have no shame to pull it out in public to blow my nose. The things motherhood does to you.





Let's hope this is something mommy can keep doing for awhile to keep her entertained!

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

You have to see it to believe it...

We ran to hobby lobby this morning to pick up a few things for a few projects we're about to start work on. While there, Nicole stated that she figured out what she wanted to hang over her fireplace mantel and "it's made out of toilet paper rolls." Imagine a big "what?!" look on my face. This afternoon, she sent me the link because I just had to see this to believe it.

Toilet Paper Art

I was blown away too.

Some people are just way too creative. Don't you hate those people?

Me too.

Now I want some toilet paper art to hang in my house.

Unschooling?

Have you heard about this yet...



Monday morning Good Morning America did a segment on unschooling. The picture that was painted was pretty questionable and not a pretty one. This family has two teenage children who basically spend the day doing whatever they want. They say they are unschooling, but in my opinion, they are no where close to it. I'm not an expert, but from what I understand, the point of unschooling is promoting and teaching children by using things they are into at that time and not to necessary follow a particular curriculum. These parents in my opinion were not doing that, they seem to be just letting their children run wild. Unschooling is not allowing your children to sit around all day and watch MTV or playing violent video games.

I understand the whole concept with unschooling, personally, I'm not a big fan of it. I am however a fan of homeschooling. My mom home schooled my brother and I've known several families that have home schooled successful children. This video however did nothing but shed a negative light on homeschooling. We haven't said too much, because we're not 100% sure yet, but as of right now, we are planning on homeschooling our children. For us it is not a religious thing, it is a lifestyle. David works about one of the craziest schedules around and his schedule is about to get even more crazy. We would like to spend time as a family and right now it seems homeschooling will give us the best opportunity to do that. Plus, I've mentioned a few times that I have worked off and on for a local school system for several years. Needless to say, I haven't been too impressed but I have nothing against those that attend public school. We both attended public schools our entire educational career. I realize that homeschooling is not for every one. Who knows, it may not even be for us, but we're going to give it a try.

Whether you home school or not, either way children need some type of structure and direction. I felt so bad for these two teenagers. When the reporter was questioning them, they seemed so lost and to have no ambition. I feel like these parents are doing a great injustice to their children.

Did Good Morning America make things a little exaggerated to start a lot of talk? I really hope so. I hope there are not parents out there really allowing their children to not receive an education. It's not fair to the children. And thanks to Good Morning America for making homeschooling families look half crazy to those who know nothing about homeschooling. Thanks so much.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Breakdown

I should be sleeping, it is 3am. One of the many pieces of advice you receive when you have a baby is "rest when their sleeping." I cannot tell you how many times I've heard this, but for some reason, I can be dead to the world but as soon as she falls asleep, I go into overdrive and cannot "rest." That's my time to run around and do everything I possibly can do before she wakes up so that my husband won't think I sit around here and do nothing all day but read blogs.

These past 15 days have been the hardest of the last six months. My patience has not just worn thin, it's gone. Patience is not a virtue that I excel at by any means and evidently you need a lot of it when you have a baby. In the last 15 days, we've dealt with vaccinations, the left top tooth breaking through, a little virus, and then the right top tooth coming through. It's been nothing buy sleepless nights and straight crying for the last 15 days.

These last two days I have seriously questioned my ability to be a mother. I finally lost it with her. I screamed at her. I screamed at six month old....what the hell is wrong with me? Of course did this solve anything, no. All it did was result in more crying for her and me crying. I hate myself for it. It's not her fault and I know it. Why can't my nerves just realize this? Thank God for my mother-in-law for trying to make me feel better by telling me that she once too screamed at David's brother when he was a baby and wouldn't stop crying. I'm sure she was making it up to make me not feel so bad.

I try really hard to not complain on here too much about it all, I don't want y'all to think I'm a bad mother or wonder why I even had a kid. Olivia is not a bad baby, but she has been a difficult baby. Those who only spend a couple hours with her always say "oh, she's such a good baby", but those who see her on a daily basis understand what I'm saying and see what I go through with her.

She's extremely strong willed. She will fight with you with every little bone in her body. She's not attached to anything (but me), so "soothing" her is out of the question. She refuses a paci. She doesn't take to any particular blanket or stuffed animal. She doesn't suck her thumb or fingers. She refuses to have you hold her close, she only will let you hold her facing outward. She will not cuddle. If you try, she pushes you away. She's already started hitting and no, it's not just a reaction. When she's mad, she gets a angry look on her face and starts hitting you. She has done this repeatedly, so I'm convinced now she knows what she's doing. She's extremely independent. She cannot relax. Even when she's eating, she's constantly moving. She has to be in control. She hates being a baby. Her little body doesn't function at the same speed her mind does and this leads to nothing but frustration for her.

The scary part....she's just like me.

I love her, I really do. I love her with my entire heart. I would do anything for her. I would give her my own heart if she needed it. Even after six months, when I think about her and how much I love her, it brings tears to my eyes (even now typing this).

It's just so hard sometimes.

I now laugh when I hear other women say their ready to be a mother. Your never truly ready and you never will be. You might think you are, but your not. Yes, it might be time for you to be a mother, but you won't be ready to be a mother. If you do not have children of your own, you cannot even begin to comprehend it and all the emotions that come with it. I spent years taking care of other peoples children. I thought I was ready. I thought I knew what to expect, but I had no clue. I now regret all those times I would say stuff like "I know, I work with children" to those who were already mothers. I now completely understand when other parents would say "you'll understand when you have children." I know they would just laugh, because I now laugh to myself when people without children say those things to me. All I can think is you have no clue.

The part that scares me the most is, it's just the beginning. At one point today, she was fighting me about something and I just looked at her and said "we're going to be doing this for the next thirty years." I pray that God gives me the ability to be the mother she needs. I pray that he gives me the patience and strength to deal with her. I pray he gives me the ability to be the mother I want to be to her.

Now that I've had my breakdown, I think it's safe to say she's finally had hers too. She passed out in my arms this evening a little before six. It's not unusual for her to take a little cat nap at that time, so I laid her down, thinking she'd be up in 30 minutes. I guess she's finally broke down and given in, she's now been asleep for over 11 hours straight and she has never slept this long in her entire life. Oh, and her Nana has her all day tomorrow so I can get a break.

And if your thinking I need to be reported to child services for yelling at my kid, please make sure when you report me that you request she be sent to the Pope's. Thankfully, their registered foster parents in our county.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Getting to Know You

So I'm going to start participating in a new blog game. MannLand5 plays Getting to know you every Sunday. I think it's a cute idea and since I never usually post on Sundays, I figured it would give me something to post about.


The rules of the game is that every Sunday she posts different questions that your to answer about yourself. She always has some crazy questions that I would have never thought to ask anyone. So here it goes...

1. Mens chests..hairy or hairless?
I use to say hairless, but for some reason, the older I get the more I do not mind hairy.

2. How often do you run red lights?
I've only done it maybe twice in my driving career. Now that I have a baby in car, I always slow down when I see a yellow light.

3. If you could raid any celebrity's closet..whose would you raid?
I would have to say Reese Witherspoon. She always looks classic and polished. I think she always looks great!

4. Would you rather have more followers/friends on Facebook, Twitter, or your Blog?
Hands down my blog.

5. What makes you feel sexy?
Getting dressed up and wearing heels for a night on the town with my husband.

6. I get excited when...........?
When I wake up and look at the alarm clock and realize that my six-month old has slept through the night.

7. Are you the "outdoorsy" type or more "indoorsy"?
I would have to say outdoorsy. I use to be a indoorsy kinda gal, but my husband has slowly converted me over the years. However, my version of outdoorsy is sitting on a patio with a glass of wine in my hand or sitting on the front porch reading. Nothing too extreme now.

8. Would you rather have your dream home or a million dollars?
A million bucks please!


Saturday, April 17, 2010

A new ride...

You know your a mom when you get excited about buying one of these...



Yes, I put her in it and took her for a spin around the house just to try it out. I even asked David if we could go somewhere tonight just to try it out. He promised me I'd get enough use out of it soon enough.


Thursday, April 15, 2010

My List

Last night was book club at Amy's house.

Amy did a heck of a job hosting it.

We had a delicious Chicken, Bacon, & Pasta dish with asparagus sauteed in butter and garlic. Yum. Our smiles quickly turned to frowns when someone asked "where did you get this recipe?" and Amy answered "oh, I just threw it together with what was in the pantry." Don't you hate people like that? It tasted like something she got out of a Williams and Sonoma Cookbook and she just whipped it up. If I just whipped up anything in our pantry, it would taste like popcorn with spaghetti sauce on it. Seriously.

Amy's pick was The Next Thing on My List by Jill Smolinski. It's the story of a woman who offers a ride to another woman in her weight watchers meeting and accidentally kills her in a car accident. She finds a list that the woman wrote about the 20 things she wanted to do before she turned 25, in order to deal with her grief, she decides to complete the list for her. In the end, her entire life is changed from the whole experience (for a better explanation, click on the link above).

Honestly, I wasn't sure I would like it at first, but I was quickly pulled into it. It makes you think about what would be on your list. Amy decided to play a game and had everyone bring their 20 things typed out with no name on it. We each pulled a list and tried to guess which list belonged to who. It was fun hearing what others put and who had the same things. I found it funny that the older women in the group had several similar ones, while the younger women had similar ones. We all also found it a lot harder to come up with things than we thought it would. The goal was to have things that you could actually achieve. So something like become an astronaut was pretty much off limits. Most of us decided to be pretty serious about our list and are starting to work on them. I decided I'll share my list with y'all.

My 20 Things...

1. Lose 20 pounds.

2.Read and finish Gone with The Wind.

3. Go to New York and see a Broadway Play.

4. Have another baby.

5. Spend the whole day at a spa.

6. Go on a girls weekend trip.

7. Plant a garden and be able to eat from it.

8. Go a full month without watching any tv or movies.

9. Take a honeymoon with my husband.

10. Wear a bikini again (in time for that honeymoon).

11. Run a 5K.

12. Get involved in a Sunday school class at church.

13. Take horseback riding lessons.

14. Own my own horse.

15. Learn to sew more than a beanbag.

16. Finish decorating my house.

17. Go to a movie by myself.

18. Start a Mother/Daughter tradition.

19. Be a more adventurous cook.

20. Own a beach house.

So, there is my list. I don't really have a time line, but I'm thinking maybe 20 before 40? I want to have some type of deadline. I wish every book we read had an activity like this one because it was fun getting to know more about each person. I'll keep y'all posted when I accomplish any of them.

A rough week, but on the Move

Um, Let's see...where do I begin?

Olivia went for her six month check up last week. Normally the vaccinations don't bother her too much, but this go round they did. She was cranky and ran a low grade fever for a couple of days. Then things just didn't seem to get any better over the weekend. On Sunday morning, I realized that her top front teeth are coming through. Well as the week has gone on, she hasn't seemed to feel much better. Yesterday we started to notice that she kept pulling on her left ear. I called the pediatrician about ten minutes before they closed and scheduled her an appointment for this morning. Well, it's been decided that she has either a little virus or is from her teething. Thankfully no ear infection, but the poor girl cannot seem to catch a break these past two weeks. We're hoping she's feeling better soon, because if not then they think it could be something more serious (i.e. a kidney infection), but we're praying for her to feel better soon and not even thinking in those terms.

So, that's where I've been all week. I've been loving on my sweet baby girl. I knew she wasn't feeling good when David put her in bed with me yesterday morning and she cuddled up with me to sleep for an hour and a half. My child is not a cuddlier, so I soaked up every minute of it.

In other news, even though she's been under the weather, Olivia is officially on the move! We've advanced from rolling all over the house to crawling. It's an army crawl, but it's still crawling. It's hilarious to watch. I wish I had a video camera to tape it (my birthday is coming soon....hint, hint). I know I've done horrible with her monthly updates, but I have no excuse other than I've been too busy laying out at Nic's house all day. Sadly folks, that's the truth.

We had bookclub last night, so I'll be back later with a post about it. I LOVE book club!!!! Not that I haven't told you that many times before. It's now one of my favorite nights of the month!

I have several posts in my head, so I'm hoping to get to them soon. Until then, here is a picture in case you forgot how beautiful this baby is...

Monday, April 12, 2010

I think this covers it...


In case you cannot read it:

Brandon will be off from 4/9-4/12. Any attempts to call me will be unsuccessful. If your dog is sick, your car won't start, babysitter is smoking crack, uncle is drunk, baby's daddy gets out of jail. I do not care. Just be at work.

For the record, we've heard every single one of those before, plus some.

Thank you for the good laugh Brandon!

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Rasing Beggars

You know what I hate? Yes, I'm going to use that strong of a word.

I HATE when your walking in or out of a store and there are children there asking you to donate money to whatever their cause is. This is something that drives me insane.

This morning Olivia and I ventured out to Wal-mart. Yeah, we were feeling brave. Wal-mart on a Saturday morning = Crazy town. When we were walking into the store, we were attacked by a local baseball team asking for donations to send them to the world series. I was very tempted to stop and say something rude like "why should I just give you money, what are you going to do for me?" But I figured the parents would have then jumped on top of me and since Wal-mart is pretty much the only place to shop in our town, I held my tongue.

I spent my entire childhood in some type of organized sport. We never once stood on the side of the road or in front of a store begging people for money. We always earned it. I can remember doing countless car washes or candy sales in order to raise money for what we needed. Personally, I feel like this is nothing but laziness on the parents part. The parents of this baseball team were all huddled up in the shade and too busy talking while their children were begging for money. Obviously, to do a car wash or candy sale would involve too much participation on the parents part, so why not we just ask people for money.

David and I have talked about this before when we've seen kids just asking for money and I feel like it does nothing but teach children that they don't have to work hard for what they want. All it's doing is teaching our children to be beggars. Yeah, it sucked doing car washes in the 90 degree heat, but if we wanted to go to cheerleading competition, then we did it.

Now, I do not have a problem when certain charities just ask for money. Every time I see the firefighters collecting money for burned children, I always give. Once, I even went through the same intersection twice within an hour while the firefighters were collecting and I gave both times. That is perfectly legit to me.

I can assure you that whatever my children are involved in over the years, if it is ever suggested that they stand there and beg for money, I would speak up and refuse to participate. Plus, I would not place my child on that team or whatever it is the next go round. I do not want to raise my children to think all they have to do is ask and they shall receive. That's not the way life works and I do not want them growing up thinking they are owed anything. I feel like all we're doing is raising a generation of beggars and people wonder what's wrong with our society?

Just my opinion.