Thursday, September 16, 2010

Our newest Thing...

Obviously, I didn't get around to posting my book & movie review yesterday. And to be honest, I don't really feel like doing a whole post on it now. To sum it up, we read Eat, Pray, Love for bookclub last month and then went to see the movie on Sunday night. I loved the book and not so much on the movie. I rarely go to the movie theater and even rarely pay full price. I really wanted to go and ask for my $9.75 back. The movie does not do the book justice. There's my book review for you.

The reason why I didn't get around to posting the book review is because we attended our very first MOPS meeting yesterday morning and somehow the rest of my day ended up being very unproductive.

MOPS is Mothers of Preschoolers in case you have never heard of it. No, I don't have a preschooler (and yes, I was the only one there who didn't have a child preschool age), but I am a stay-at-home mom who longs for some adult conversation and to put on "real" clothes every so often. I've been asked by several "what do they do?" and I had no answer before yesterday. Basically, it's a support group for stay-at-home moms.

And now some of you are laughing about a support group for stay-at-home moms.

One thing I have learned this past year, is that being a stay-at-home mom is not all it's cracked up to be. I had this wonderful fantasy that I would spend my days taking care of my sweet baby, my house would always be cleaned, I would spend hours doing crafts every day, and dinner would be homemade and on the table every night....

BAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

Wasn't I a fool.

I would be lying if I said this last year has been bliss and I've enjoyed every minute of it. Yes, there have been days that I've called David crying and begging to go back to work.

Don't get me wrong, I am very grateful that I have the opportunity to stay home with my child. Regardless of those bad days, I do tell my husband often, thank you for this opportunity. I understand that it's not for everyone and not everyone can afford to stay-at-home, but for me personally, I could not imagine not being home with my child. I completely realize what a gift this is.

But, even with that...being with your child 24/7 can be Mentally EXHAUSTING!!!

I very rarely get a break from her. Even though David is a big help when he gets home for work, she still see's me as her caregiver and most of the time, isn't happy unless I'm doing for her. She usually just sees daddy as a playmate. Which I completely understand.

Also, being a stay-at-home mom to a very small child can be very lonely at times, especially with my husbands crazy schedule. People wonder why Nicole, Amy, and I have become so close in this last year. Well, since our husbands work similar schedules, we've come to rely on each other because if not, we all three would be sitting at home alone majority of the time. When mom's say they are longing for some adult conversation...they mean it!!!

So, through a new friend, we got hooked up with the local MOPS group. They meet once a month for a general meeting, a girls night out, and a playdate. So, I'm excited to start getting involved next month. The part I loved the most about it was that the moms came from all different backgrounds and varied in age. The older I get, the more I appreciate differences in people.

This is the newest adventure we're jumping into and I'm excited about it. I'm sure I'll start posting about our activities once they start.

5 comments:

Kameron said...

I hear you on the 24/7. I sometimes wish I could stay home with the kids, but I know that I would go a bit nuts with the all day every day aspect of it. It will probably never be in the cards for me, but I guess I've made my peace with it. I almost want to become a teacher though so I could at least have summers off!

Elizabeth said...

I'm so glad you talked about this. I was the fool in thinking it was peachy and bliss everyday. I just asked Mike yesterday if he thought I would be able to stay home with our baby when we have one. Of course my timing in asking him was wrong (during football), and the answer I got was like a hum. Lol. I still hope I can...but of course a lot plays in to that. Thank you though for posting this to make me see even more what all is involved. Can't wait to see you! Love you!!

Tara Ball said...

I'm in a MOPS group also in Fayetteville. I must say I LOVE it. I was in a MOMS Club as well but I much prefer this I think it is the christian dynamic. They are such a wonderful group of women and I really look forward getting together with them. We are doing a cupcake decorating field trip next week should be fun. I'm hoping to have pics. I really hope you enjoy it! On a side note I actually missed MOPS today because I needed to stay home and clean my house. :)
T

StitchinByTheLake said...

Joining a MOPS group is a wonderful idea. Take it from a grandmother who longed to be a stay at home mom and never got to, what you're doing is exactly the right thing to do but hard work! blessings, marlene

Tristan said...

That sounds fun! But i can't leave my baby anytime soon...haha..i'm a spaz! I'm not even sure we have one of those around here!

I LOVE staying home with my babe..hehe..it'd kinda ridiculous..but she is a very happy easy-going kiddo!

I really want to read that book!